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Limerence Relationship Symbol in Genograms

The limerence symbol—often depicted with a pink line and decorative circles—represents an intense, obsessive form of romantic or emotional fixation on another person. Coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in 1979, limerence describes a state of involuntary obsession characterized by intrusive thoughts, emotional dependency, and intense longing for reciprocation.

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Limerence: Pink line with circles indicating obsessive fixation

What is Limerence?

Limerence is a psychological state of intense romantic desire and obsessive focus on another person, termed the "limerent object" (LO). Unlike mature love, limerence is characterized by:

  • Intrusive, uncontrollable thoughts about the person
  • Intense emotional dependency on perceived reciprocation
  • Physical symptoms: heart racing, trembling, flushing
  • Idealization of the limerent object
  • Fear of rejection reaching paralyzing proportions
  • Temporary elation when reciprocation seems possible

Dorothy Tennov's Research

Tennov's 1979 book "Love and Limerence" identified this as a distinct psychological state separate from love, attachment, or infatuation. She estimated limerence typically lasts 6 months to 3 years, though it can persist indefinitely without consummation or rejection.

Clinical Significance in Family Systems

Limerence appears in genograms when documenting:

  • Affairs where one party is limerent rather than in love
  • Unrequited attachments affecting family dynamics
  • Historical relationships that still hold emotional power
  • Patterns of obsessive attachment across relationships

Limerence vs. Love

Limerence: Obsessive, anxiety-driven, focused on gaining reciprocation
Love: Mutual care, security, focus on the other's wellbeing
Relationships may begin with limerence and evolve into love, or limerence may persist destructively.

Limerence in Affairs

A common clinical presentation involves a married person experiencing limerence for someone outside the marriage. The limerent person may:

  • Believe they've found their "true" soulmate
  • Compare their spouse unfavorably to the limerent object
  • Make impulsive decisions based on limerent feelings
  • Experience withdrawal symptoms when the affair ends

How to Use in GenogramAI

  1. 1Press E for Emotional Relationship tool
  2. 2Click on the limerent person
  3. 3Drag to the limerent object
  4. 4Select "Limerence" from the menu

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